funny responses to what are you doing this weekend

If you want! I am so devoted to nail care now that it takes me 27 hours to get my tips right! It can still get extremely wearing through, and I do wish people would think more about when this conversation is appropriate and when Im maybe not up for answering a litany of questions that literally every stranger asks me (ie when Im obviously exhausted and struggling with four bags of groceries that I have to cart away on foot). Im surprised to find out this is annoying, I guess, because I am such a What are you up to this weekend? asker when I want to hang out. They may be angling to invite you somewhere. Since the question what are you doing this weekend? has, like, 18 possible meanings, many of which *can* involve power plays, it just breaks my brain. (A couple of these people suuuucked like, I thought I was safe with studying until a couple of people started telling me that that was interesting because we were in the same classes and they just ~got the material better~ and didnt need to study at all this week. Number 6 is my answer to " why don t u want to have kids ? I dont worry when people say no to me either. Unless youre at the stage of an established friendship where you have agreed to get together for dinner every other Saturday, or are discussing plans for the next visit to your long-distance sweetie during this visit, any actual social plan is only going to happen after someone risks discovering that the other person is less interested than they are. (In this case it was never exactly meant to result in actually doing anything), Them We need to have lunch soon (Wriggle your hips) I am as happy as a tick on a big, fat doggy. Okay, there is something a bit screwy with this guy. Even though Ive done the layering myself, I dont usually hear it as an attempt to give me all possible puts. He hardly ever asks anymore though. That being said, I am always happy when I get to tell people that I dont answer that question because the answer gets me stereotyped and it keeps us from getting to know each other as individuals. The thing about she is family, and I expect family to do X is: Who decides what is necessary, when is it necessary, and who needs to do it? I wonder if some variety of Im really flattered that you asked and I want to hang bout, but I REALLY need to recharge this weekend, maybe we can set a time that works for both of us? might be a good script? Thats just the question it looks like. If those people have sufficient ability to cause difficulty or danger if they are displeased, it may not be advisable to say to them but not because it it rude; because those people cause problems when things dont go their way. - Ogden Nash - Old timers, weekends, and airplane landings are alike. You? If ever there was a moment for the standard Wow script, this surely would be it. I get that I might not be asked to future events as well. Life is good and I'm happy. In fact this letter reminds me a lot of a lady I knew once who moved to the US from a different english-speaking country and took offense to people asking her where she was from when they heard her accent. Any fun plans? Mentioning your actual plans is one. If partying and watching Netflix is the only thing you dream of doing, don't pretend that you spend your days filling out job applications. If I have to treat her like a grownup, and not like my minor child that I can boss around, she can fucking treat ME like a grownup, and not like her mommy that she takes for granted. Im in my late 50s and, frankly, my plans for the weekend are likely to be boring to this younger inquirer. Most of those projects and research were for fanfiction. I love you. Rock on, Helen. I expect either Oh were going to see New Movie/having a picnic/running errands or I dunno, usually followed by how about you? Its a low pressure small talk question, most of the time. Jana: I'm good. If that's not a good enough answer for them, walk away, because there's nothing more you can say. Lets just say there were a few comments along the lines of look, if this Pampered Chef isnt your personal yaoi cup of tea, thats fine, but do you have to be so judgy about what your friends into?, Exactly! I cant see into the future and neither can the people in my life. Spares you from having to say Great and feel like youre lying (which can be uncomfortable even when you *are* aware youre participating in a defined social ritual), but also averts the worry that if you say things are bad, the asker will pry for more details. Was he not getting back to her soon enough? Sorry about that! Bonus points if you say something that makes zero sense, but you end up getting your family to look at you like a genius anyway. Thank you. He taught me that its always polite to leave someone a face-saving way out of a social situation, so if you want to ask someone to go do something, give them a certain date/time, so if they dont want to go they can say sorry I have other plans without anyone feeling awkward. What are you doing Thursday? By formal invitation, Im not necessarily meaning an engraved invitation, like for a wedding or other fairly formal event. Sometimes this takes several rounds before everyone realizes theyve done their line but missed their cue. Vagueing it up works for me. "It's happening.". I have actually thought about writing in about this one as well. Although I have one co-worker who apparently does laundry on weekdays sometimes. Hi / hello + [thing I want to talk about] can almost seem too abrupt in that context, particularly among peers. single. This will hopefully lead to the two of you sharing what your plans are and possibly hanging out. "Great, thanks for asking" is a generic response that you can use when you receive a "how's your day going" message. Catching up on sleep, doing chores, spending time with my partner. Great, Thanks for Asking. One thing I think might be getting lost a bit in the discussion is the distinction between asking What are you doing this weekend as small talk indicating Im interested in your life (e.g. that sounds fun! My response if Im up for it is Looking like a fun one, but did you have something in mind? If Im probably not up for it I say All the things! This says "I'm doing well.". Usually, the asker will tell me why they asked after I answer, no matter what the answer is (busy, not busy, dont know). They may just be an indirect communicator, and Hey, want to go have dinner might feel too abrupt without any conversational preamble. Invitations are not commands. I think the reason is that telling people about fun things is potentially fairly personal. Good luck! ? I had a boss once who sometimes wanted to know if I could work overtime on the weekend, but sometimes wanted to know if there was quirky events on that her daughter might be interested in. Other Half keeps the diary, I need to check.. Most people would rather talk about themselves than anyone else, so turning the question back to them will almost always divert them from further questions about what Im doing. To read all future answers to your comment, please bookmark this page. They see how often constantly males can throw a tantrum about how theyre being bitches, where the males only complaint is, I asked her questions, and she refused to answer! That alone is enough for him to feel justified in escalating the threats, anger, violence. If you have a faaaaaaaamlyyyyyyyyyyyyyy culture where not providing free labor on demand for family makes you the jerk, lean in to it and accept the mantle of jerk; this frees you from ever needing to try to avoid that label in the future. But a couple people have African-violeted me over this. But I have made a major effort to train myself to STATE WHAT I WANT first. At the very least, it makes you feel like the place you live isnt really your homethat youll never belong or be from there, that you have no claim to it. There are several possible moves in response to this gambit. Flip the question back on them. Every time you see Pushy Neighbor, you go into this mode. She does recognize that its a way people make small talk and that its not likely to go away any time soon. Copyright 2011 thru 2023 Jennifer Peepas, all rights reserved. Not least of which, I never felt obligated to pick up on any of his hints ever again. As in, What are you doing? is another way of asking What are your hobbies?. We all had too much to drink and passed out at Dan's house!" Yeah, I do the same. My current boss is a total jerk. Although you risk hearing all about the questioners plans. I didnt realize it until I noticed they were running a long-term experiment when they traveled of noting responses they said they like Canada and big chunks of northern and western US, because if they say theyre British, no one bats an eye despite their obvious Polish accents. is how this has been explained to me, and it makes perfect sense. As others have mentioned, if I say yes Im free and then they offer something I dont want, then I *really* feel the pressure to say yes because Ive already essentially told them I have nothing better to do. She's asking because she's interested in your plans specifically. Ive been loving all your responses on this thread. Whatever hits them the hardest should work just fine. That is AMAZING and I love Gladys (and you) and that is going directly into my repertoire for Dealing With Those Extroverts. Then I can pin them down on what, and when, without having pre-committed myself to some favor they were hinting at sideways. Im glad its not a way to get rid of someone/blow them off without saying so. Me: Nope. FRIEND: I am available [date]! That stuff just wears on people. There are two good situations for teasing: 1) when someone talks about something unusual like Lily did; 2) when someone is not very good at something, such as singing out of tune. I cringe sometimes because a lot of the send awkwardness back to sender! advice overlaps with the kind of thing he does and yeah, it costs him. See also, sometimes when someone is rude or difficult, I will pretend they said something nice or appropriate and respond with a total non-sequitur. I love days where I have no obligations and I can go where the wind takes me. So far, everyone Ive said this to has gotten the message that I want an obligation free day. We teach children that they must answer questions put to them by adults, that they have no choice in the matter. If you already made someone admit that they do not have Serious Plans, of course at this point saying no to your invitation is going to be so much more difficult, because its going to be rude! The only exceptions are: 1. Its a lot easier (for me anyway) to answer when I know what Im answering. But I think often we like to pretend that there are no such tradeoffs, and thats not helpful in the real world. I know it is super common usage as a general term for silly / disorganised but its actually an ablist term which a lot of people with disabilities have had thrown at them as a slur. Me: Working. Justit can be a lot sometimes. 2. I think people use that particular question instead of asking outright so they can feel out whether the person has any plans or our open to hanging out before they ask them to commit to a specific thing. E- Excitement. No other adult would be here. My father nearly died in my arms, and you cant meet me at the airport to show me you love me, because you dont like being told what to do? When she asks me what Im doing on a particular day, I just say Im not sure or I need to check my calendar until she tells me what she wants. Is it OK to invite the usual people? I dont use it myself because I dont like the way it comes across. Him: Doing anything else? So whats the fallout if I tell her I need her help with something, and she refuses without a good reason (because she wants to play Minecraft or listen to a podcast)? Im pretty thoughtful about when I feel Im entitled to expect her participation, and when Im not. You don't want to end up like your crazy aunt who keeps asking you the same question during every holiday dinner. I dont think she feels disliked; theres really not a lot of conflict for us. "I'll get back to you once I'm back from my long-awaited trip to the fridge.". It doesnt mean Im not an interesting person or my life is less meaningful if Im selective about who I share the details of my life with. Humor is one of the best ways to respond to being asked out, as long as it's well-received. I also find why do you ask? really handy as a polite way to signal someone is being nosy. Or why do I feel entitled to her presence and her company? I appreciate the suggestions about responses, having to deal with a pushy in-law (nosy for information and has a big sense of entitlement). Making conversions . Thats a way it can work, certainly, but why is it magically guess the exact time theyre free and what they want to do with no input if the person who first said lets hang out is then suggesting a time or activity, but something other than magically guessing if the person who first said lets hang out and is told yeah, we should is the one saying Saturdays are good for me, how about you? or Ive been meaning to see Black Panther? This is a whole lot easier to get if you see someone do it, but here goes: First of all, your manner while doing this will be constant big beaming smiles of absolute certainty, with big cheery extrovert gestures and rather loud but happy and beamingly-positive voice mannerisms. Sometimes, it's good to be a little silly and fun! Spot on, thank you. Another good script Ive heard for when the person is clearly trying to invite you to something is What did you have in mind?, If theyre small-talking, you can say something like Hopefully relaxing and destressing. It took some practice, but I always try to give an out for people, especially since I have a group of Japanese friends where theyre used to giving a soft no. Am I Really? Note that LW says when it comes to friend-peer interactions, its fine, other than reminding LW of the more problematic interactions. I dont want to give you a rundown of my plans. Sometimes we dont have plans, but that doesnt mean Im willing to just let her do any old activity. A simple, 'We hope you're doing well' will suffice," a Deadline editor tweeted. 2. (I am also not her only parent, so I dont get to act unilaterally. He's finally seen the light and realized you're meant to be together took him long enough. If the other person isnt in a chatty mood, we go comfortably silent after a few pleasantries because the Small Talk Gods have been appeased. Just because at that one time it wasnt true doesnt mean that her reaction was irrational. heres what i dont get: why would it be a problem, in the scenario youve given, to say, eh, i wish, but im swamped this week, shitYXZs been happening, ill ping you next week tho. One morning when we were together he asked, So what are your plans for tonight? I said, Oh I dont know. I still have the same question of why do this? Two main reasons that I can see: 1) They want to get to know you better and talking about how you like to spend your weekend is often a great way to do that. In a lot of cases I dont think its meant to be manipulative, its just a verbal tic. Answer vaguely. "I'm not saying I hate you, what I'm saying is that you are literally. Id rather know the thing up front so I can answer it directlyare you free without telling me the activity feels like a setup. Sorry, Im busy. I know this is a small complaint, in the grand scheme of things, and I usually handle it by changing the subject to something Im interested in if I *do* feel like conversing. But I hate this because then I have to pretend to wait while I figure out if my original plans are going through before I give them an answer. 20 questions to ask instead of "How are you doing right now?" - Quartz Im a big fan of being super clear: That depends, are you asking me out? Im looking forward to some down time. Depends, why?, even if said with humour, does tell the asker that I might be open, but that itll depend on the contents of the invitation. (this one may not be my wheelhouse anyway, no translation needed. Its great that you can come!. Simply say something you're obviously not doing. If you have never phrased commands to her that way, yup, thats on her. And making things even harder, so much of this is tonea chipper Why do you ask? to the above question is a soft deferral, whereas a flat Why do you ask may be offputting in a way that leverages a cost. This is a different way of reacting to a social interaction. Your radishes that you consider joint family radishes because everyone could eat them? Crossword puzzles, chess, sudoku, or other puzzle games Cooking Travel Gardening Art, music, crafts, writing, podcasting I know that doesnt solve your overall problem, and I dont know what a reasonable solution is Im Sorry youre struggling right now. Im white and an immigrant in the country where I live. Oh god then you might need to find less-jerky friends, probably. But I dont think you can compare me to your dad. You have attached a new question to an old thread. Just looking for my phonehave you seen it? It forces the manipulators to cough up some version of their agendas, and galvanizes the friends with vague plans into issuing an actual invitation. +1, Im the same way. a coworker you dont hang out with outside of work asking this question on a Friday) and as a pre-request/invitation. Nah, Why do you ask is generally pretty safe to take literally. In fact, you probably have all of these thoughts when a guy asks, "What are you doing this weekend?". Theres a world of small talk out there that doesnt Other a person, and being genuinely curious is not a justification for anything. It can be so hard to set boundaries with the inlaws! I have a colleaguestraight white well-employed middle-class-raised Christian cis man, so about as privileged as you can get in Americawho opts out of a lot of what he considers to be optional social stuff. I really appreciate the feedback from the Captain and other commenters about the need to own my time and feel more confident in my right to respond when and how I want to. But really those friends should elaborate: What are you doing this weekend? 20 Quick & Easy Canned Responses to Improve Your Customer - HubSpot Yup. 1. Its not so much about stopping the question before it comes (pretty much impossible!) 3. Good luck! Indoor Cat raised some good points. So, it's perfectly . Or else, Id rather people not start a conversation unless they have something specific to say, unless its somebody like my sister who I know well enough to talk about nothing and enjoy it. Photo: Funny Quotes. Whereas it might feel more awkward/imposing for her, and less for me, to just ask outright, Do you want to go to [event] on [this day]?. Yep yep yep. How to Respond to a WYD Text - Sweety High 18. Oh, stop it, will you? Any request for someones time, regardless of the setting of the fun variable in your mind. There are some funny responses to "what are you going to do with your life" for when your family keeps asking you the same dull questions. Theres an important underlying truth here that I think we all have trouble with: We are not required to answer every question put to us. I moved out from my parents when I was 25. On a walk with my dinosaur. Might I suggest a they or a xie, my friend. I think its interesting how LW is talking about what seems to me to be a specific social paradigm/situation that a lot of the commentators do not share? And sometimes its due to the other person not grasping the soft no/non-answer to drop the conversation (generally people I am not already friends with, like the one bank teller who keeps on asking* and that I do find nosy/irritating). You can be annoyed by a wide variety of people forever. And with some people it is pretty transparently a question with the subtext of let me mooch off of your free time and/or the things you do in your free time are stupid and wrong. Im working on this myself. If you can walk away from them, they're successful. Its either a soft opening for an invite or a general small talk questionand in both cases, Oh, not sure yet, how about you? is going to be one thousand percent fine. You can do it as far as you can. No, just running some errands. The second part of this is being okay evaluating the specific invitations and turning them down if you dont want to do them. Its not over-sensitivity when people react to it theyre reacting to what they know is likely to be underneath it.. Its just in the past year or so that its cropped up repeatedly, with different people at different establishments. Im not talking about not dealing with this. How odd to be on both sides of this! And just because my plans dont include hanging out with anyone or leaving my home, it doesnt mean that I am free or willing to cancel them. This one is a bit tricky for me. 86 Funny and Flirty Responses To 'How Are You Doing?' - Monk at 25 Oh thanks capn for the hilarious answers!!! Not every parent who expects stuff from their kid is unreasonable. Auto-Reply Email Sample for Customer Service: A Personalized Template So, now give me my money back. The joke about (insert joke) cracked me up on your profile. If a stranger or acquaintance says, How are you? its mostly just meant as a greeting, and you greet them back by saying, Im good, thanks or Doing alright or Oh fine, and you? Just some standard vague but positive-sounding reply. In that case, if they have already said theyre free, they might feel trapped into saying yes; I know I would. 80 Witty & Creative Response to "How Are You?" - My Clever Mind But I dont want to? You are never going to stop hearing this question from relative strangers and new acquaintances, but I think with close friends or family, you should be able to say to them the next time, you know Im a pretty straightforward person; if you want to invite me to something you can just ask me directly. or some variation thereof. I"m not done loving you!" 7) "It's Friday bitches!! That! and she looked really pissed off, and I worried that maybe it sounded like I was looking for an excuse, any excuse, to get out of whatever she was proposing. Sometimes, answering a question with a question is the best strategy. There are some funny responses to "what are you going to do with your life" for when your family keeps asking you the same dull questions. :) Hope you like our compilation and try to stay serious ,please . If youre female and you answer, and then he decides your time sounds like it should be at his disposal and asks for a date, and you dont want to go, now youre stuck in that ugly probabilistic space where various sorts of threats, anger, and violence may be coming at you. Whereas a lot of us see the advantages, like the precision you noticed, to some form of rapid written communication that wasnt around decades ago. But I think it tracks beyond that particular experience. The kind of situation where someone finds out you are free that evening and then says, Good! Hey, dont you owe me one for babysitting last Onesday? Well see you at other time, but not in the morning.. Being a grown up with a family, studies and a job, friends and hobbies my life is often busy and so is my friends so we often use this website https://doodle.com/ but then people always know what kind of an event we are trying to schedule. Funny Ways to Respond to "How Are You?" Overworked and underpaid. Oh my god I have to go to (thing) which is (plaaaaace). Then match the sentences with the correct picture. It always makes me a little uncomfortable, because Im not used to grocery store cashiers asking me how I am. So, when I do this I really am trying to get a feel for whether a busy people-pleaser like my Sis actually has time to do something on Saturday, rather than outright asking from the start and leading to her twisting herself into a pretzel trying to free up that specific block of time for me because she doesnt want to say no, Reading the LWs feelings about this situation and the comments, I can totally understand why someone would hate being asked in this way and why it might make it harder for some people to refuse something they dont want to do after theyve said theyre free, but Im still not quite sure what the solution is when dealing with someone who usually *does* seem to treat invitations as subpoenas. I think lots of people, especially women, are socialized to think that confidence is impolite, so they try to sound unassertive. You (if you are up for it potentially) yeah, thatd be fun Its an opener, like Hot enough for you? Or How about that sportsquad at the sportsmatch? The content of your answer is secondary to the dynamic of conversation. 1) Let the weekend memes begin! Yes, I know that is an inappropriate way to react. I decided we couldnt be friends anymore after one time I told her I couldnt babysit and she said, Your calendar says youre free. I actually have an answer for this one. If youd rather not, I would love to immediately pretend this never happened and talk about dinosaurs for the next ten minutes, and then never bring it up again. Climbing mt laundry! While we're sure there are plenty more things people do for fun, these are some good hobbies to mention: Outdoors activities like rock climbing, hiking, cycling, etc. a s h l e y. Our relationship got better when I moved out. I really thought that an invitation was going to come later. It sort of came to a head last week when I was on the toilet, and the kid came to the door, and my kid answered the door, and the conversation was like That would create some damage. Michael Wiley on Twitter: "RT @h_miller76: Had you asked me what I'd be Do you have time to talk?" "What Are You Up To?" Can Be a Way to Ask "Are You Busy?" Here's another example: Jana: Hi Rob, how are you? And we do know that extreme surveillance is a very brutal and destructive form of torture. This last weekend single handedly took me off the liver transplant list. I just wanted to add that in my experience as a POC in a white majority country its mostly been well-meaning people who have made me feel discriminated against. . And she might feel hurt that Id rather do nothing than do something with her. Happy Weekend Wishes, Messages and Quotes - WishesMsg You just reminded me of the ex-husband of a friend I used to know. Ive had trouble with that one, too. "Thank you, I appreciate that.". Wanna do something? or You free Saturday? It happens every time I get him as a teller. *In my case, Z has agreed to push the Ask her yourself button instead of passing messages along. I also love Caps I need to check my calendar and get back to you approach. (Full disclosure: Whole in-law family are control freaks and this type of thing IS a setup with them. 1. Someone responding with why do you ask? would basically make me instantly take a mental step back from that person in terms of comfort level. Depending on the purpose of the encounter, that might mark the end of the interaction or serve as an agreed-upon signal for one or the other or both parties to end the dance of content-free niceties and get to the point or commence the conducting of shared business. Like "How are you?" can be asked formally and informally, the response of that can be a unique one, too. Thursday is good for me. For people I know, the answer is closer to what you say is the norm in Sweden anything from Having a truly awesome day to Need more coffee to counteract the baby waking up an hour before the alarm. For close friends, I can and have answered with details about what the brain weasels are up to today. Yay! Theres nothing bad with setting them and enforcing them, and if youre dealing with people who cant respect them, the question itself is not the biggest problem in the relationship. Also I have learned to give hard noes. Of course, he keeps doing it his way, so I just ask dunno, why? My DH reminds me when predictable events are coming up and advises me to fill up my calendar! In the UK, most encounters respond with fine/good/grand, how are you?, In formal encounters, respond with how are you?. Its any individuals choice whether the tradeoffs are worth it. I know people who mean well dont like hearing this, but I think that its important for people who mean well to also consider how the people they interact with might feel, so I consider this type of information to be useful to anyone who truly wants others to feel welcomed and comfortable. I guess I run with a very specific social crowd and it hasnt occurred to me in a while that its not always doable to say Im going to do CRAFTS ALONE, its going to be awesome. But I used to be in a grad program where people were super competitive, and if I said oh my god Im going to stay in this weekend, Im so peopled-out people would be lowkey mean about how I wasnt networking/studying/running charity marathons enough.

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