we broke up and he got another girl pregnant

The baby is coming, the product of a two month relationship. Some said he deserved the label because he exposed the LW to STDs. Like if the guy is unconscious or doesnt know how babies are made? Ive stayed away from this question because I honestly dont think I have a very well informed opinion on the matter. If your girlfriend complains that you never take . This is a great contrast to Wendys piece about Drew being a great husband/dad. A dude youre dating barebacked someone while you were on a break and then came back to you and said he couldnt live without you. P.S. Weird question. It has nothing to do with the man. You see being nurturing as a weakness. Thus, her meal is tainted with traces of peanuts. April 10, 2012, 10:27 am, Okay Well, I dont believe the LW has a right to be mad at anyone, simply because her and her boyfriend were broken up when this happened. WTH is that?! When I was young, but old enough to ask, my mom always told me that my biological father just wasnt ready to be a daddy. So just ignore them, thats what I do. In fact, step aside from the situation (my advice to you). So, in other words, RR, it is a noble thing to give your child to strangers in the hope that he or she is treated well (that the adoptive parents wont abuse them, wont get divorced in a messy way, wont let them fend for themselves, and so on), even though youll have no interaction with that child again, but it is base and vile to have the same lack of interaction but to provide financial support which doesnt in any way affect the mothers ability to find a partner that is right for her. Dream about Boyfriend Got Another Girl Pregnant indicates spiritual renewal and healing. Dont ever sleep with someone mean or stupid, because if you get pregnant, youre going to be tied to that person for the rest of your childs life. And I was like, Ewww, Mom, thats gross! But it was great advice, and Ive always followed it. If you know you absolutely dont want kids, do everything you can to prevent them. Paternity laws in this country absolutely suck. BGM- multiple people disagreeing with you is not necessarily a sign of needless solidarity that makes you sound paranoid. Malarky. Bottom line. SpaceySteph hamster van beethoven So, ask yourself why do you allow it? That woman, Kaihla Rettinger, gave birth to the model-turned-Midtown South cop's son on Nov. 5, Radar reported three days after McLoughlin, 27, met Lambert, 35, while she was performing on . It doesnt have to toss a ball with you to help with your rehab or take pictures of you with your new arm. Youre the one asserting that its only one sex that experiences unfairness. Theyre the exact same situation, but for some reason, hes scum. BTW, has he heard about condoms?? April 10, 2012, 7:23 pm. April 10, 2012, 10:56 am, hes angry with the way this has worked out. Ask Dr. Sherry: 'My Fianc Got Another Woman Pregnant, Now - Essence The decision to have sex is NOT a decision to have a child. He doesnt want anything to do with her? You mean, he should decide whether or not he leaves a kid constantly yearning for attention theyll never get? In the end he is a great dad and we are expecting our second.. a Girl:) The guy had sex with someone who got pregnant. God knows the mother of this child will have no choice but to do that. I can agree with you that the decision about which medical proceedure she under goes after that point is totally hers., Is it any wonder that 40% of the kids born today are bastards?. People are calling him scum because hes a guy who doesnt want to become a father to that womans child. Of course we have a right to an opinion, even if our opinion is that dirty sluts shouldnt breed. Hes allowed to not want to be a father! April 10, 2012, 5:16 pm. Even if you wore a condom. I thought you were disputing the comments about it being not that contagious by disclosing that you were HIV positive. He wants to get back with the LW (again, apparently). The sex was good. ago. And maybe she is a harlot of sorts. My biological father, whom Ive never met, responsibly paid child support and didnt confuse me by dropping in and out of my life. However, sure, something unexpected and life-altering happened to him, and hes upset, so surely hes an idiot. You want to work on your social skills. He loves me and doesnt care about the mother but wants to be there for the child, but said he doesnt have to and wil wait for the DNA test. So, really, I guess I disagree with the majority of the comments here. Im just trying to clarify the parameters here. Boy, for someone who cant live without you, he sure didnt wait to go out and sleep with someone else! I am amazed at people who think abortion is wrong for religious reasons, but have no concerns about coitus with people outside of matrimony with people they just met for two minutes. Those double standards take up too much room. 24 signs your ex-girlfriend misses you 1) She's all over your social If But, yet, again you let him back and hoped things would change and he would be with you. It is quite possible to become pregnant on the pill. You need to be consistent in your line of reasoning. Would be nice if they could because there were many nights when I was pregnant where my husband could have had our babies lay on his bladder instead of mine. I think it is unfair that the man cant have sex without the possibility of becoming a parent, but the woman can. Risk reduction is not relevant, because the risk never goes to 0%. April 9, 2012, 7:33 pm. He can just disappear forever for all I care. April 12, 2012, 2:47 am. Men should be held at least halfway responsible for the resulting pregnancy and child but should have no authority to decide upon his involvement. Pardon me, butare you fucking KIDDING me?! I wanted to punch my computer screen while reading this and was so afraid the comments would not say what you are saying. Because once the innocent kid is here, the fact that he/she was an accident does not mean he/she has less of a need for supportive, involved parents. So the system is very one sided. because, no one can give you a 100% guarantee that none of that will happen. His response to my comment was all dont tell me what to do with my body. Posted Over 1 Month. Go on about it all you want though. Quit acting like hes so hard done by by this woman and tell him to get some responsibility. I want to get angry but I don't know if it's considered cheating. Whatever. I cant even imagine how a grown man can be deceived into impregnating someone. I try t,o help because I remember when I was young. Ive been silent on this website a while, and by and large tend to agree with most of what is said, but I could not sit quiet as people suggested to a) force this man into parenthood, and b) suggest that this woman is incapable of being a single mother. WHAT THE HELL IS YOUR PROBLEM, LW? iseeshiny Its like the universe is all conspiring against us! Good. Ok, lets say he has the right to have as much unprotected sex as he wants. While it would be ridiculous to only have sex if you intended to conceive a child, it should still be in the back of everyones mind that it *can* happen, and if so, the woman, whos burdened with the pregnancy, gets to make the final call. I know you have to keep the possibility in the back of your mind, but youve really been ready and willing for motherhood every time youve decided to sleep with someone? we were truley in love. Women can decide to abort the pregnancy or to give the child up for adoption, both of which are choices that remove any future obligation. And for what its worth, I highly doubt he can bear to live without you. I mean, he didnt exactly waste any time getting some other chick pregnant, did he? Its biology. To be fair, (and Im not at all discrediting what youre saying, because it very well could be true), but no where in the letter does she mention that he did or did not use a condom. We Broke Up; He Had a Baby. Less than a year after our breakup, my And I tend to agree that with certain situations, men end up with the raw end of the deal. April 10, 2012, 7:35 pm. But you were split up for 2 months and cant bear to live without each other yet he didnt waste any time jumping into bed with someone he barely knows? Seriously, doesnt anyone get off on oral anymore? Also I disagree with the logic that if you support legal abortion, then you emphatically deny that men create children. Men still lose here, because if theyre they one who wants the child, tough luck, but thats the way it is. Hes obligated to financially support the baby, which he is willing to do. Why Your Ex Boyfriend Contacts You When Hes In Another Relationship Take this as a lesson learned. Whether that be by having the child, supporting the child, adoption, abortion, whatever. April 10, 2012, 7:00 pm, If you dont want to potentially end up with a kid with a woman you cant stand, dont have sex with her.. I have tried to encourage him to stay with this woman soley because of this pregnancy, but he wants me and wants to marry me as he said all along, and he is furious with this woman for keeping the baby after only knowing each other two minutes. To be fair, the pregnant woman could be an idiot too but the only info we have about her is that she participated in sex with the LWs bf after knowing him a short time, says she was on birth control and is now pregnant and planning to raise the child. 6napkinburger And I am, I must admit. Wrap it up or dont have sex, thats the only choice YOU have. Cant thank you enough for your response! I would like to also say, we dont know that shes trapping him. Oh boy. This guy, you can most definitely live without. female Then they want to fight for the loser like hes some sort of prize! Not your body, not your choice. Just once. You have no idea what youre talking about, with regard to child support. The fact the option to abort or not is a womans right is no secret. You were on a break, not even completely seperated from the relationship, and he clearly has some space in that undying love for you to have unprotected sex with a stranger. Hell, I dont even know the lady in question, and I can tell that shell be a lousy mother, too. You want to look awesome in comparison to this new guy. Your Turn: "He Got Another Woman Pregnant While We Were on a Break!" April 10, 2012, 5:49 pm. If that means not being with your boyfriend for the next 9 months to a year, then so be it (I dont think youll die without him). Scummy is the wrong word to use. April 9, 2012, 12:24 pm. REALLY?! Because she accidentally got pregnant with his child? sorry, brain). Yes, no birth control is perfect, blah blah. Then how does the woman get off require the man to do it? Its that men should have as much of a say in whether they want to opt into support as do women. April 10, 2012, 9:06 pm. April 9, 2012, 5:05 pm. At least with adopted children, they usually have one or two great parents who can explain, in a way that doesnt hurt them or damage their self-worth, why they were put up for adoption. Ex-girlfriend Is Pregnant With Her New Boyfriend's Baby Stop insulting her and learn to see the situation for what it really is. The man should have no say on whether or not she keeps the baby but she should have a LOT of say over his finances for the next 18 years. If you dont want a kid with a stranger then PULL OUT!!! If he doesnt want to have children that much, yes, he should be the one to do everything to prevent it. This is when we see rebound relationships. Here 13 common reasons guys start missing and try to go back to their ex. Every relationship ends in death or a breakup, so this is not unusual. Not to mention raising the baby, which women are way way WAAAYYY more likely to do alone than men. hi there! The fact that you can find examples of a law being broken doesnt make the law just or valid. I agree with you regarding being a part of the childs life but I dont agree with you on the money aspect. This is my question for you. I think Dan Savage an Santorum have some sexual tension though. Well, now it's been years. If you were thinking about breaking up with herthe pregnancy might be a trap. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. Argh. This does sound like a lot of cod wallop and baby malarky shenanigans to me as well. Mmmhmm, I thought so. And not even the most important part. 5 Ways To Deal When Your Ex Is Dating Someone New - Bustle These two ideas cannot be simultaneously true. No. The law does, because once the child is here, through no fault of its own, it needs to be supported in order to have a successful life and successful children are in the best interest of all of society. He found someone relatively fast and quick, and jumped in the bed with her. I am no worse for never knowing my biological father, who paid child support, and being raised alone by my mother. Pretty sure this: and he is furious with this woman for keeping the baby is the browbeat part. We were apart for over five years when he announced he was becoming a father, and even though all that time had passed and despite my happiness with my new husband, it still conjured up a lot of . 10 Signs Your Ex Is in a Rebound Relationship - Luvze Of course there are the people who assert that others have no right to an opinion regarding birth control, abortion, or other actions. Already Tired of the Baby Malarky. lets_be_honest I think it is unfair that the man cant have sex without the possibility of becoming a parent, but the woman can.. Happens all the time. As Ive gotten older shes told me more details about the situation (they were tenants in the same complex working towards professional education [law and med school] and both around age 30; I was a surprise and he was more dedicated to completing his education, while she wasnt upset that she would be a mother sooner. The fact that only the woman has the abortion option is biology, not anyones opinion. So go whine about how unfair life is to someone who is as ignorant as you are about how life works. After 7 months I moved back, but upon moving back he made a confession to me. Is that fair, well no, but nine months of growing a baby inside you, followed with birth, breast feeding, ect isnt really an equitable way to split reproduction either.

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